Memorials

Thanks to Linda at A Slower Pace for pointing me in the direction of this article in an Oregan newspaper. The basic story is that a Portland physician, who received a small legacy from her mother, decided to give away $100 every day for the month of October. She made some groundrules for herself, such as: it was to be to a stranger; someone she interacted with and in person, hand to hand. A brave memorial, and far more than a mere gesture. She is writing about it at her blog each day, and many of the stories have moved me to tears.

It has made me think about giving in general. So often nowadays we are moved by a particular story in the news, or by a picture of an abandoned pet or child…… and then moved to make a contribution. The trouble is that we are not sure if the gift is doing the maximum good. That’s why I tend to support a mixture of national and local charities. However, something caught my eye in the news this week; it was mentioned in a newspaper article about the death of Linda Norgrove. Her family are hoping to set up a charity specifically devoted to improving the lives of women in Afghanistan. (The Linda Norgrove Foundation)  In the early days, before the latest war I was brokenhearted to learn of young women committing suicide in that country because education was denied them. If this new charity gets off the ground – and I hope it does – then that will be a way of feeling less helpless.

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Del Boy and the Bar

Just what is needed for a Monday…..

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Not really a book review

This is not really a book review – I haven’t yet finished the book in any case. It is more about age related problems. As you know, these last few weeks have been busy, and I have been a bit sorry for myself at having to recover so slowly.

Enough moaning about that….. One of the recommendations that I had on my book list was The C-Word, by Lisa Lynch. I added it onto an amazon order a couple of months ago and it has been sitting on my to-read shelf until this week.

I don’t know about you, but I often find books by people who are in recovery from trauma, illness, death of friends or partners etc strangely uplifting; they have the ability to lift me out of my own troubled zone and into a whole new realm. This book, so I thought, would be the same. Not so….. at least not at first. Here, displayed for all to see was a language I barely understood, attitudes I failed to comprehend and far too much swearing and total irreverence for the basic principles of wholesome living. If I had borrowed the book rather than purchased it, I would have given up reading after the first few chapters. However, I persisted, and am gradually learning about cancer, yes, but far more than that, I am learning about the young and those starting out on adult life.

It shames me to admit it, after all, I have four adult sons and younger friends, but here I am being confronted with a whole new way of dealing with trauma. Gradually, I am seeing the humour which Stephen Fry speaks of in his commendation. More importantly I am learning to love the writer and to admire her take on life. It has all highlighted for me the way that the young and the old can often speak in colloquialisms that inhibit their understanding of one another. A glimpse at my facebook page reinforces this.

Her ongoing story is on her blog page – if you do go to look at it and the language puts you off, it might help to read the book first. I shall certainly be watching her progress with interest and concern over the months, and I am going to try that little bit harder to understand the language and concerns of the young. It would be interesting to know what both young and older think of this disparity.

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Nasty and spiteful?

I am worried for my country – and by this I mean the UK, rather than Scotland on its own. The way that cuts are targeted are inevitably going to hurt more for the vulnerable and marginalised than for those with more secure incomes and trust funds. It seems to me that politicians with a privileged background and lifestyle are encouraging the mad media to stir up hatred towards the unfortunates of our country. I know this is something I have blogged about previously, but we are now in a position to see more of the consequences than before.

Right now I am deeply saddened, I doubt I shall ever have the energy to person the barricades, but I can at least make a plea that someone, somewhere in Westminster listens to the more caring attitudes that come from the nether regions of the UK.

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Autumn rainbow

Woke up this morning to a hard frost and bright sunshine. By the afternoon the temperature had risen to all of 4 degrees centigrade and the rain was near freezing.  Never mind, ‘flu jab done and winter woolies are looked out, summer clothes need packed away. There really is no arguing with the weather. But how about this for last night’s glory?

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Two novels and a suitcase of apples

This past week or so has been respite of a kind. The last month  has been especially busy, so quality time to recover, regroup and read up on ideas and news seemed like a good idea. Every blogger needs a break sometimes. My expectation was to come back and share great insights and worthwhile thoughts on the matters of the day. The actuality was a bit less grand.

We set off for an autumn road-trip in the motorhome, visiting family on the way. We did in fact, manage to take in an exhibition at the National Gallery in Edinburgh. It was on the theme of Gardens and Impressionism. Sounds great, and would have been if only three-quarters of the visitors had stayed away. Struggling round the gallery was like being at a football match, prior to the days of seating and a clear view. Where we went badly wrong, was in choosing to lunch  somewhere that was practically empty and where there was no concept of gluten-free food. Hands up……. we were both to blame. The Better Half (or HBTW) has been suffering ever since, and it is obvious I’ve been trying to do more than I should. How lovely to get home and spend time recovering. Perhaps this week, we can get back to normal.

The good part is that all I could cope with reading were two light and gentle books which share the common characteristic of causing the reader to fall in love with the characters.

I’ve long been a fan of the No 1 Detective Agency Series written by Alexander McCall Smith. It is sheer escapism into the land of Botswana, where traditional values and the traditional shape of Mma Ramotswe appeal in a timeless and comforting way. It’s so easy to fall in love with this side of Africa, and the characters are treated with such respect and understated humour, that the whole effect is of having a rest cure. It is not a book to be rushed,  rather it is a novel to be read slowly, savouring its taste like the bush tea beloved of the principle character.

Hens Dancing, by Raffaella Barker, was first published in 1999. My introduction to the author is via a friend who has been recommending her books for several months. I love journals and diaries, so tend to treat novels written in this style with a degree of suspicion. However, the author quickly overcomes the reader’s doubts and the characters and situations in which they find themselves, come alive and convinced me, at least, that all of this was real. That must be an accolade of the highest honour for what is essentially a beautifully written, humorous and poignant novel, about single parenthood and the delights, as well as the disadvantages of a country life. There is a sequel – Summertime (2002) and it is on the to buy list. I intend to reread Hens Dancing and then go straight onto Summertime. Can’t give better praise than that.

Oh yes, I nearly forgot- what about the suitcase of apples in this post’s title? Friends came to visit, travelling 400 miles by bus. They had two suitcases between them; one was full of apples, which we are still enjoying munching our way through. A harvest of the garden and of friendship.

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Hectic

Life has been a bit hectic recently, the result being that I need some time to recharge my batteries.  So I’m going to take a blogging break for a week to read, research and come up with some new and worthwhile thoughts.

I think it is called an autumn break. A few walks in the sunshine would be a good idea. See you soon.

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Keeping Mum

If you fancy a gentle, relaxing hour or so you could do no worse than to opt for the mesmerising skills of Rowan Atkinson as the vicar and Maggie Smith as the new housekeeper in this 2005 film, Keeping Mum. Gloria, the vicar’s wife is played by Kirstin Scott Thomas, whilst Patrick Swayze supplies the sleazy conman who plots to steal her away.

Grace, the housekeeper decides to take matters into her own hands, with surprising consequences. It is understated British humour at its best.

7 out of 10 is the rating from me, and I would certainly be happy to add it to the dvd library for £3.50. Have you by any chance seen it? I’d be interested to know what you thought of the dubious morality which is an integral part of the whole.

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Norman Wisdom In Memoriam

There is so much I could say about growing up and Norman Wisdom. He came across as being funny, endearing and sincere; he was also a favourite of my Mother’s, which meant I got to see him on TV. A few years ago I saw a documentary of his life in retirement, on the Isle of Man. He still showed the same qualities, but also had a strong independent streak. This youtube clip shows him singing Don’t laugh at me ‘cos I’m a fool. (By the way I am word perfect.) It’s a song which gave me great hope whilst I was stumbling through my teenage years.

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Recovering Sunday

Today has been about recovering from the events of yesterday, which involved 6-9 Terry’s All Gold, a very ill-looking little dog, projectile vomiting and short rations for the rest of the day. It seems that temptation was too much for Misty – there it sat on the coffee table, a newly opened box of chocolates with only half the top tray eaten. Now, the coffee table is cairn accessible height, but I was too busy concentrating on catching up on old times with the visitors.

Come Saturday morning and everybody realised the dog was missing, even though there was food to be had at the breakfast table. A quick sortie revealed Herself curled up on the couch, ears laid back and what can only be described as a hang-dog expression. If she could have turned green it would have completed the picture. Then….. the evidence…… the box of choccies with the top tray completely empty. Horror…. as it dawned that Misty had overdosed on chocolate. A quick count round as to who had eaten what, revealed that approximately 9 were missing. There was even one round solid chocolate left on the carpet (perchance she was too full for anything but soft centres.)

Below, you can see her confronted with the box.

An investigation on google advised that a vet be consulted as soon as possible. I had visions of dashing to the surgery and looking the other way whilst a stomach pump was put into service. However, thankfully, the vet was able to say that as it was milk chocolate and not plain all should be well in time. Phew! He did say that she was a greedy little pig. Having felt the tenseness of her belly I can confirm that fact.

For the rest of the morning the little dog remained immobile and sick-looking. Just before lunch things came to crisis point. By good fortune I recognised the signs of impending doom and let her out. I couldn’t look but HBTW announced – “It’s happened! Projectile vomiting.” I did take a photo, but thought better of sharing it. I’m sure you are relieved at that.

Today, little Miss Mischief is back to normal, though last night she was sniffing around looking for the box. (It is safely in the cupboard, by the way.) She has also been rather hyper-active today.

Talk about the excitement of living a quiet life in the country.

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