Laugh don’t fret

This is a joke that is meant to make you laugh not worry.

During a visit to my doctor, I asked him, “How do you determine whether or not an older person should be put in an old age home?”

“Well,” he said, “we fill up a bathtub, then we offer a teaspoon, a teacup & a bucket to the person to empty the bathtub.”

“Oh, I understand,” I said. “A normal person would use the bucket because it is bigger than the spoon or the teacup.”

“No,” he said. “A normal person would pull the plug. Do you want a bed near the window?”

I have to thank Lisa at my manner of life for this one.  What I would like to know is, are you having the bed next to mine?

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7 Billion People

Thanks to Lesley for highlighting this youtube video from National Geographic.

Puts things into perspective don’t you think?

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Enid Blyton

Being in a reflective frame of mind has taken me down some by-ways into childhood. Like many a post-war child I couldn’t get enough of Enid Blyton.

Yesterday I finished looking at the DVD about her life – Enid. Perhaps I should say that it was loosely about her life, for I had the feeling that we were being given a caricature without any explanation or depth, other than what the imagination could conjure up.

It was hard to watch, especially when her books meant such a lot to me in childhood. My early years were not exactly straight-forward, so I was definitely one of the children Enid wrote for who wanted to escape from the humdrum of life. There wasn’t a lot of colour in my mind’s pictures of my memories of the 1950’s – The Famous Five and Mallory Towers gave me extra friends and family that were missing in my own life. The film was well portrayed, Helena Bonham Carter is indeed a genius at portraying biographical characters, she seems to be able to mold her looks and personality into the person portrayed.

The original biography by Barbara Stone, is probably worth adding to the book list as the write-ups suggest that it is a “warts and all” look at her life, showing her success as a writer and her seeming inability to be a close and loving mother to her two children, whilst she displays tremendous kinship with her young readers.

The other book that I found interesting is Looking for Enid by Duncan McLaren. It is more of a travelogue and journey through both places and writings…… interesting in its own way, but as is the case with such a personal perspective, it does rely heavily on the experiences of McLaren himself.

So there you have it. The reason for my love of reason is the love of a genre of fiction that rested my spirit. Blyton’s world of plenty and adventure was a comfortable and safe one. What do you think of her – author and person?

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Once a reader

Once a reader, always a reader – so the saying goes, and it is certainly true of me. Depending on my frame of mind I always have the appropriate book to hand; if not, I simply pick up another. Current books on the go:

Elizabeth the Queen Mother by Hugo Vickers Page30/375  (this is a second reading and makes light bedtime dropping off to sleep relaxation…..)

Encore by May Sarton, Page 158/332  (many readings and ditto above)

Forgotten Laughter by Marcia Willett, Page 30/375  (a library book billed as for those who like Rosamunde Pilcher – it hasn’t grabbed me yet.)

Life and Laughing my story, by Michael McIntyre Page 112/294  (lives up to the author’s gift for observational humour.)

War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy Page 378/1356  (as part of my winter blog readalong at dovegreyreader.)

The Gift of Years by Joan Chittister Page 82/222  (suits a slow, meditative pace – a recommendation from the blogging world.)

The above list makes me wonder about a Kindle Reader, though I don’t travel as much these days there are still the motorhome trips and visits to family and friends. However, I’m still at the stage of liking the look and feel of each book. When I feel in need of a boost I can pick up the Michael McIntyre volume and instantly sense the inward chuckle rising. If I’m wistful and feel that life is passing me by I go to my seat in the porch and pick up Joan Chittister. Tolstoy is for serious days, whereas the Rosamunde Pilcher un-look-a-like hardly gets attention at all. Bedtime reading alternates according to mood but must be non-fiction and soothing.

Are you a one book at a time person, or do you like to have a few on the go?

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Life as it is

Readers of long-standing may remember the saga of the porch being built. In the end it took a total of 4 years. However, it is now one of my favourite places to sit and meditate or to read and watch the birds at the feeders.

The pheasant this morning sent me scampering for the camera. You can see the dank, dreary weather; I know the photo isn’t all that great but it gives a true picture of life at Dalamory just now. In the summer the sun shines right into the windows and lights up everywhere; in the winter it’s lovely to be warm inside and yet to have the sense of the garden all around.

As a follow-on from the discussion about care of the elderly and palliative care, you may like to look at a moving story here, where a woman called Amy Berman describes her experiences on being diagnosed with an aggressive form of breast cancer. It helps to give a fuller understanding of the dichotomy between health carers and those seeking the chance to make the most of the limited time they have left.

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Less aggressive treatment for the elderly

When I saw the above headline in an article in the Herald, I thought it was going to be about abuse of the elderly. Sadly such abuse is real and ongoing and requires constant vigilance by relatives, friends and visitors. It is an important issue and deserves its own post. However, today, I want to concentrate on the real meaning of the headline, which actually refers to the main argument in a new book by Prof Phil Hanlon.

He states that the National Health Service in the UK is becoming unsustainable and suggests a form of “rationing” or passivity in the treatment of the frail elderly. Now when I was in my twenties a furore was caused when it came to light that notes of patients aged 65 and over were marked D.N.R – Do not Resuscitate. At the time I wondered what the fuss was about….. after all, 65 sounded very old. At least it sounded old way back then; as a 66yr old elderperson, things look very different.

But – and yes I think there is a “but” – we are getting ourselves into a pickle over costs in the NHS and we are also confused about what is the best policy for medical treatment at the end of life. I have seen mentally fragile patients put through extremes of treatment which have caused them great distress and pain, causing me to wonder why on earth it was being done. Yet, as a society, we are judged on the way in which we treat our elderly, our disabled and our vulnerable members.

A week or two ago I wrote about advances in care for those with dementia. Care for people with this illness can be improved in all sorts of ways and I would never suggest that a life is not valuable and worthwhile. But at the end of my life, I would hope that I would be spared invasive, and yes – aggressive – painful medical procedures that may or may not extend my life.  Perhaps I am actually saying that we need to learn ways of dying and making dying, where possible, a dignified, pain-free, worthwhile experience.

Where good palliative care exists, it is wonderful. Over the years, as minister, relative and friend I have sadly seen too much that was not good. Instances where the dying person is almost abandoned yet wired up to all manner of equipment. Instances where someone wanted nothing more than a sip of water or a more comfortable pillow………   and no-one wanted to know.

So what does good elderly care represent?
I think it is simple: good care is about justice. It is what we each would want for ourselves and our loved ones. The problem is will that be possible?

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How many ways do I blog thee?

Friko, over at Friko’s Musings, has written about possible problems that we bloggers face in connection with family, friends, confidentiality and suitability of topics. It set me a-wondering what is in my mind when I write a post. If I am absolutely honest, I want to say something worthwhile, and much of the time I don’t. This blog is a mix-match of daily trivia, thoughts, a record of books read and films watched, all leavened with a dose of the spirituality which just is. It is a place for sharing things that have intrigued or made me laugh.

Many of my family and friends don’t read it – they see little point, after all I’m there on the end of a phone to chip in with where I’m at. Perhaps that says more about my family and friends than me. It’s easy to accept praise from friends and acquaintances but more of a challenge to listen to criticism – harder still to learn from it.

Then there are the would-be bloggers amongst my circle, those who quite fancy the idea of joining in the blogging world themselves. Beware if you are reading this, you know who you are. You could get hooked and then there is the daily or weekly problem of a readership to please or challenge or tickle or whimsify. The most important way to learn about blogging is to search out and read blogs…… lots of them …… of all genres. If you find someone you like, go back and learn techniques, join in conversations and help to expand the boundaries of the cyber-verse.

There are some who like to be mentioned in the blog. Friends who tell me stories and say “you could write about that.” Sometimes I can, sometimes I can’t. Here I have to confess that I keep a list of ideas to blog about so that I can pull something out of the page if I am having a bleak week. I confessed to Friko that I tend not to write when I am feeling down. Maybe that is not such a good idea, perchance it might help someone who wanders across this blog to discover that we all have bad days as well as good days.

The big question then is Why Blog?  It was relatively easy when I worked as a Parish Minister, there was a ready-made potential audience. It had its own pitfalls – writing for a congregation – and sadly, I suspect I may have caused offence to some and disappointed a few. However, now I am retired I am free to say what I think and be who I am. The problem with this is that no-one likes to reveal the darker parts of their soul, that is unless they want to make a bid to emulate some of the spiritual classics. So that leaves me back where I began all those years ago – striving to have a place in blogland as one of the Growing-older-graciously-and-wiser brigade. Oh – and I enjoy a good chuckle too.

Why do you blog? And what problems have you encountered? (I almost wanted to say – Why are you reading this? But I am scared of chasing people away!)

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Shock to the system

Normal service nowhere near to being resumed.

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Handle with care

These last few days I’ve tended to bury my head in a book to try and escape the bitter cold outside. Handle with Care by Jodi Picoult is the type of read that her fans have grown to expect and love. She may not always please her readers, but she certainly makes us all think about hard questions in ethics, legality and relationships.

This book is no real surprise, however I should remind you that Picoult’s endings invariably have a twist. The topic chosen is of a family with a young child coping with osteogenesis imperfecta – or brittle bone disease. The subject is handled in gruelling detail through the eyes of several of the main characters. Basically, the medical bills and sheer stress are crippling the family and they decide to embark on a lawsuit for wrongful birth against the consulting obstetrician who failed to diagnose the medical condition until the 27th week of pregnancy. Their premis is that given the choice early enough and knowing the tragic facts, they would have terminated the pregnancy. To make matters even more difficult, the obstetrician is the best friend of the mother.

Enough? Because that is only the bare outline of the story. There are several conflicting strands that pull at the heart strings. I enjoy these books – if that is the right word…….. it is more about becoming involved in the stories and being compelled to read on until all is clear. I don’t want to put in any more spoilers than that.

It is true to say that Jodi Picoult has found a formula that works and she is sticking with it. One writing device she employs is to punctuate sections of the narrative with a contrasting yet strangely parallel offering, of something totally different, to give a break in the tension and to help the reader enter into the dynamics of the story even more. In this case it is about cooking. She doesn’t give a recipe for yogurt cake (!) but I understand how baking can become an antidote or coping mechanism for stress.

Marks? I’m only going to give it an 8 out of 10, however, I am prepared to be convinced to raise it. Have you read it? I’d be interested in reactions please.

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Gluten Free Yogurt cake

For quite a while I’ve been wanting to try making a yogurt cake. The whole concept intrigued me, and I’ve sampled a couple of really good ones. Today was declared to be still part of the holidays. Well – it is a bank holiday in Scotland. And this is the time of year for comfort food. The extra pounds are to be disregarded till after Twelfth Night. Here’s the very simple cake. (Sorry there is no picture, most of it has been eaten. HBTW was the assistant, so he needed rewarding.)

This makes 2 round cakes in 9inch tins. It helps to use a heavy baking tin with a removable base. Just like this one from Lakeland.

Ingredients:

3/4 large tub plain low-fat yogurt
Use this as a measure for the other ingredients:
2 x Dove SR Gluten-free flour
1 x Sunflower oil
1 x caster sugar
4 large eggs
3 teaspoons baking powder

Method:
Beat well in a large mixing bowl
Bake on middle shelf of oven at 180C for approx 30 mins.

Yum!  Will just have to spend more time on the Wii-Fit tomorrow.

By the way, the cake also works with flavoured yogurts and in measures of a small pot, though it will take a few minutes less to bake.

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